Preserve your relationships
I challenge you to become someone who is unwilling to quit in your relationships. Don’t quit on you. Don’t quit on them. Don’t quit on the possibility of being able to work through anything, together. There is always a solution if you are willing to do whatever it takes to find it. I promise, there is a way to preserve relationships.
This doesn’t mean staying in an abusive situation or with someone who is not willing to work with you. But, before quitting on a relationship, ask yourself these four questions:
- Have I done everything I can to be proud of how I showed up in the relationship?
- Have I taken 100% responsibility for my 50% of the relationship?
- Have I honestly communicated my concerns and offered solutions?
- Have I given the person an opportunity to work with me through issues, conflicts, and obstacles?
When we quit in relationships, we inevitably wind up in the same place with someone new, whether it be with a romantic partner, colleague, family member, acquaintance or friend. If you’ve done everything you can, in a way you’re proud of and are clear and neutral, it’s then – and only then – a possible time to end a relationship. If you’re charged in any way – angry, sad, scared – there’s more this person has to offer you for your highest growth.
About Rebeccah: Rebeccah Silence is a certified life coach and music therapist with a master’s degree in counseling and extensive background in addiction recovery, school counseling and adult psychotherapy. As owner of Inspired Results, she provides trainings, facilitation and coaching all over the country, but runs her private practice out of Whitesboro. She is locally known as the relationship guru doling out free expert coaching every Tuesday morning on KISS-FM for Confession Tuesdays. Silence specializes in corporate trainings, couples counseling and one-on-one life coaching. Have a question for Rebeccah? Email her for Ask Rebeccah at firstname.lastname@example.org.
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