Only Do What You Want
Why not allow yourself the gift of only doing what you WANT to do? Selfish, maybe. For the greater good, absolutely. Let me explain why.
When I agree to do things that I do not want to do I am guaranteed to bring negative energy and resentment into my relationship(s). Also, I am misleading those I care about by pretending that to be OK with choices that actually bring me down.
DO NOT agree to anything that will cause you to be resentful or angry.
Recently I was working with a client who has a pattern of being unhappy, doing what she thinks that she is supposed to do to please her family and friends. I challenged her; putting her on a process of only agreeing to do things that she wants to do for one week. At first she was uncomfortable but decided to rise to the challenge anyway.
By following this process of only doing things that she wants to do, she will teach people about what she likes and wants without misleading them by doing things that she actually cannot stand.
I have been guilty of guilting myself into things that I didn’t want to do like everyone else. What I have learned is that when I do this, every time, it inevitably blows up in my face.
Do what you want to do. This doesn’t mean you don’t care about others, instead it shows that you care enough about yourself not to settle in any moment, no matter what the circumstances. Try it for 1 week and let me know how it goes.
Happy decision making!
About Rebeccah: Rebeccah Silence is a certified life coach and music therapist with a master’s degree in counseling and extensive background in addiction recovery, school counseling and adult psychotherapy. As owner of Inspired Results, she provides trainings, facilitation and coaching all over the country, but runs her private practice out of Whitesboro. She is locally known as the relationship guru doling out free expert coaching every Tuesday morning on KISS-FM for Confession Tuesdays. Silence specializes in corporate trainings, couples counseling and one-on-one life coaching. Have a question for Rebeccah? Email her for Ask Rebeccah email@example.com.
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