It’s not about being perfect


Instead of searching for perfection I try finding inner peace in moments where my darker self-shows up. We all have a dark side. Whether we are willing to admit and embrace our darker side is another issue altogether.

Marianne Williamson says, “As we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.”

What I have learned is that we can’t shine without embracing our dark side.

Here is a 3 step process that I use when I am in my dark moments:

  1. “Observe” yourself in your dark moments while also seeing yourself as innocent.
  2. Next, ask yourself the question, “”What is my perceived unmet need in this moment?”
  3. Third, do your best to “own” and take responsibility for getting your own “need” met.

When I follow these steps I am in leadership of my life. When I am asleep at the wheel, putting it on someone else to do or be so that I can be at peace, I suffer, a lot.

Get out of suffering and love yourself even in your darkest moments. The more you love yourself unconditionally, the more you can love others and be of service to the world.


About Rebeccah: Rebeccah Silence is a certified life coach and music therapist with a master’s degree in counseling and extensive background in addiction recovery, school counseling and adult psychotherapy. As owner of Inspired Results, she provides trainings, facilitation and coaching all over the country, but runs her private practice out of Whitesboro. She is locally known as the relationship guru doling out free expert coaching every Tuesday morning on KISS-FM for Confession Tuesdays. Silence specializes in corporate trainings, couples counseling and one-on-one life coaching. Have a question for Rebeccah? Email her for Ask Rebeccah

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