Mind Your Own Business!


imageI’m sure most of you have noticed a big issue all over the news and social media, this week. Now, I’m not going to get into that, but the thing that confuses me is at what point did we all decide to take it upon ourselves to judge others? I am not speaking of any certain thing, but I’m making a general statement. Do you remember when we all minded our own business and let people live their own lives, make their own mistakes, make their own decisions and suffer the consequences or reap the benefits of their actions?

Now, my philosophy has always been, “If it doesn’t concern me, then I don’t care.” This belief is born out of years of my parents whispering and me asking what they’re talking about, only to be met with an abrupt, “Mind your own business!” Now I’m sure that whatever they were discussing had nothing to do with me. On the other hand, I did hear the words, “adoption,” “mistake,” as well as the phrase, “damn cheap condoms!” My parents also use to complain about our nosey neighbors. They were always in everyone else’s business and they hated that. That seems to be what we all have become. Everyone is symbolically peering out their blinds to see what their neighbor is up to, so they can put a stop to it. Meanwhile, I sit in my cabin in the woods, blinds open, Muppet boxers on, doing shirtless jumping jacks and dare the neighbors to NOT avert their eyes.

The next thing that shaped my aforementioned philosophy, I learned in school. “Don’t be a tattle tale!” Now, that doesn’t mean that when you see someone commits a crime, you shouldn’t report it. You absolutely should, but your neighbor having a different guy over every night is not a crime(thankfully). What people do in their own personal lives is their own business. The guy across the street plays his guitar too loud and has herpes? Not a crime, except for the idea that he is murdering the songs he is attempting to play and probably giving that girl we read about earlier, herpes. Some creepy guy lives in a cabin in the woods, never turns on his lights, takes walks in the dark and never has visitors… That is definitely not a crime! There is no need to go around “tattling” on these people for not living according to your standards. Use this as a gauge: if you died suddenly, are you comfortable with your grandmother going through your personal things and computer history?

Social media has taken this to a whole new level and yes, I see the irony of my blog appearing online, so pipe down! Social media has become a vehicle for people to post their political, social and religious views, which is all fine and dandy. The problem occurs when someone doesn’t agree with those views. All of a sudden, there is a debate which escalates into a hurtful outpouring of emojis. Your views are your own, post them or keep them to yourself, no one is obligated to agree with you. An intelligent conversation with differing points of view is never a bad thing, but when was the last time you saw something intelligent on Facebook?!

The final issue is political correctness. We have to be careful to never offend anyone. Now, the United States is supposed to be a melting pot of different, races, religions, cultures and beliefs. The pilgrims came to this country looking for religious freedom, followed, for the same reason, by the puritans.(granted these groups of people were notorious for banishing and sometimes hanging those who didn’t agree with their beliefs, but hey, why nitpick?). With so many different races and cultures, how can you not manage to offend someone at some point? Hell, I offend people on a daily basis. It’s the only exercise I get. If a word, image, statement or saying offends you, then my advice would be to get over it. As long as it’s legal, then just let it go. If we want to keep attempting to eliminate everything that may upset anyone who may have gotten up on the wrong side of the bed(I’m sure this offends people who sleep in hammocks), then our TV shows will consist of reruns of Full House and The Brady Bunch, our movies will all be edited down to about twenty three minutes (even Harry and the Hendersons must offend tall hairy dudes) and the only music will be New Kids on the Block, Justin Bieber and Bob Dylan,(only because nobody can understand what he’s saying). If I haven’t offended you yet, give me time.

It’s simple, if it doesn’t effect you, then ignore it. Imagine how much time you spend getting all upset over something that has no bearing on your life whatsoever. You could be using that time to do more of those things for which you wouldn’t want to be judged. Don’t like gay marriage? Don’t go to the wedding. Don’t like heavy metal music? Don’t listen to it. Don’t like strip clubs? Don’t go to them. Don’t like profanity? Don’t watch any movie related to the mafia or starring Jonah Hill. Don’t like this blog? Too late!

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About: Ted Snyder

I'm just a guy who loves the simple things in life. I play bass, love craft beer and enjoy all things horror. I spend my time walking or hiking with my dog, going out to restaurants, bars and to see local bands . I stay up late and get up early. My idea of a great time is sitting on the shore of any body of water and having a beer.

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